{"id":987,"date":"2025-05-02T09:22:48","date_gmt":"2025-05-02T13:22:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/?p=987"},"modified":"2025-05-02T09:22:49","modified_gmt":"2025-05-02T13:22:49","slug":"something-i-need-to-learn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/2025\/05\/something-i-need-to-learn\/","title":{"rendered":"Something I Need to Learn"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Do you ever have times when you feel like the universe is trying to teach you something? I\u2019m having one of those weeks now, and I think the thing I\u2019m supposed to be learning about is humility<\/em>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

Humility is one of those virtues we\u2019re all supposed to have, walking humbly and all that. But I\u2019m not sure that we think about it much beyond knowing that bragging is not good and that we shouldn\u2019t get above our raising.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the more I think about it, the more I see humility<\/em> as a real weapon in the fight against stress. There have been times in the past few years where I have felt truly stressed\u2014like when my daughter got married or when my father-in-law was sick (yes, joyful things like weddings can be stressful, and we should just admit that.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During those times many kind friends offered to help me. My response was almost always \u201cNo, I\u2019ve got this. Thanks, but I don\u2019t need any help.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What a dumb thing to say\u2014of course I needed help! So why wouldn\u2019t accept help?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pride and lack of humility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I\u2019m being honest, my thinking went like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t accept help because no one else knows what needs to be done.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one else knows how to do it.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m the only one who can do it.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m the only one who can do it right.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m the only one who can do it right because my way is the only right way<\/strong>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ouch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I saw my lack of humility and the thinking that I was the only person who could do it (what ever \u201cit\u201d was) right (i.e. my way), I could let go a little.  And accept help. And even ask for help. And feel less stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What about you?  Are there places in your life where you are holding onto tasks or responsibilities because you think you\u2019re the only who can do it right (i.e. your way)? Can you let go of a couple of them, get a little help, and accept that whatever it is may not be done exactly to your liking, but it will be good enough? And you will have a minute for something else\u2014maybe even rest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Humility is part of what keeps us thriving.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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