{"id":818,"date":"2024-08-26T01:08:00","date_gmt":"2024-08-26T05:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/?p=818"},"modified":"2024-08-23T11:10:21","modified_gmt":"2024-08-23T15:10:21","slug":"stress-and-the-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/2024\/08\/stress-and-the-past\/","title":{"rendered":"Stress and the Past"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-28f84493 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"258\" height=\"195\" src=\"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/files\/2024\/08\/images-1.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-819\" style=\"width:427px;height:auto\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Sometimes in this blog I\u2019ve written about personal things in my life, hoping that the lessons I\u2019m learning might help others who go through something similar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This week I\u2019m learning something about stress and the past.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>As some of you know, 18 months ago both of my parents died within two days of each other. It was a hugely sad time. But it was 18 months ago. I mourned, I reminisced, I shared stories with others. I moved on (I thought).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This week we are going to Arlington National Cemetery to inter my parents\u2019 ashes. Dad was in the Army, and earned the privilege of burial there with Mom. It\u2019s exciting, but been a hugely stressful time coordinating all of the people and things that need to be at the right place at the right time in order for the service to happen smoothly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m finding myself incredibly emotional\u2014sad and impatient and mourning all over again. The stress of the ceremony has stirred up all the feelings I had when they died, and honestly, all the feelings I had about them throughout my whole life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So my lesson is this:&nbsp; Stress doesn\u2019t just affect your here-and-now. Stress wakes up your feelings and losses and memories from the past as well. If, during a really stressful time, you find yourself remembering old losses, feeling angry about something that happened long ago, being anxious like you were during a time of trouble in the past\u2026it\u2019s ok. You\u2019re not losing your mind. You\u2019re not unbalanced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everyone feels like this at some point in their lives. It\u2019s not just you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stress likes to rattle the cages of old \u201cghosts\u201d in our lives. But once we recognize what\u2019s happening we can take a deep breath, talk with someone about it for a little bit, and put the ghosts back to bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then we can return our attention to the here-and-now, focus on problem solving and taking care of ourselves and our loved ones, and keep thriving on the farm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes in this blog I\u2019ve written about personal things in my life, hoping that the lessons I\u2019m learning might help others who go through something similar. This week I\u2019m learning something about stress and the past. As some of you know, 18 months ago both of my parents died within two days of each other. 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