{"id":789,"date":"2024-07-15T13:38:44","date_gmt":"2024-07-15T17:38:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/?p=789"},"modified":"2024-07-12T13:54:53","modified_gmt":"2024-07-12T17:54:53","slug":"im-fine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/2024\/07\/im-fine\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I&#8217;m Fine&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-28f84493 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"151\" height=\"181\" src=\"https:\/\/site.extension.uga.edu\/thriving\/files\/2024\/07\/Im-fine.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-790\" style=\"width:319px;height:auto\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Have you ever been in a situation where someone you cared about was hurting or stressed or in a bad place, and when you offered to help they just stiffened up and said \u201cNo, I\u2019m fine\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s so frustrating when it\u2019s clear the person could use a little support but they won\u2019t accept it. I just want to say \u201cWe both know you\u2019re not fine. I love you. Let me help.\u201d&nbsp; Grrrr\u2026\u2026<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>And you know what? Honestly, I am so guilty of this.&nbsp; I do this all the time\u2014I say \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d when I\u2019m exhausted or upset or stressed or worried, and when I could really use some support. We all do this. Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The surface answer is that we \u201cdon\u2019t want to be a bother.\u201d But, don\u2019t you just hate it when someone says that phrase? It\u2019s not a bother helping someone you care about. &nbsp;What\u2019s hard is watching them suffer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Truth is, deep down it\u2019s hard to admit it when we\u2019re struggling. Those little voices in our head say that we shouldn\u2019t be so weak, or so needy, or that we should be able to handle whatever the problem is. But those little voices are wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When someone who cares about us offers their help and we say we\u2019re fine, what actually happens?&nbsp; Well, we continue to be stressed, and the other person is now hurt because we rejected their help and their love.&nbsp; It\u2019s a lose\/lose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What if instead of \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d we said \u201cYeah, it is rough right now. Do you have a minute to talk, or to take a walk, or have coffee?\u201d If we do that, all sorts of good things can happen.&nbsp; First, we do get the support we need. Second, our friend feels valued and trusted. And, finally we have shown our friend that it is ok to accept help\u2026which means that in the future if they need support they are more likely to accept it. Win\/win\/win.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So next time things are rough, and a friend says \u201cHey are you ok? Can I help?\u201d instead of saying \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d let\u2019s try saying thank you and talking for just a couple of minutes. It will help, and it will help keep us all thriving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just as a final thought, here\u2019s Kenny Chesney singing \u201cEverything\u2019s Gonna Be Alright\u201d to lift all our spirits.\u00a0 Take care everyone!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"David Lee Murphy &amp; Kenny Chesney - Everything&#039;s Gonna Be Alright (Audio)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/OSzYUf2-GSs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever been in a situation where someone you cared about was hurting or stressed or in a bad place, and when you offered to help they just stiffened up and said \u201cNo, I\u2019m fine\u201d? It\u2019s so frustrating when it\u2019s clear the person could use a little support but they won\u2019t accept it. 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